Recently, during a dating adventure, a man expressed interest in having me come back to his place for some afternoon romping fun. Since that is not at all what I am looking for, I explained that I am not looking for random hookups but am looking for a connection type relationship. I don’t need/want random hook ups, I have a solid relationship at home where I have great sex! He didn’t relent, so I offered him another option… Give me things, buy me things… Money, gifts, whatever… I will be as random and nsa as you want then. He thought I was joking at first, but I assured him I was not.

So recently, as I’ve written about in the last bit, I have been dipping my toes into the world of dating. Its interesting, after 3 years, not much has changed. It kind of feels like a rat race and a job interview all in one, still fun, just a little crazy at times. A few things in particular have come to my attention as a bit of a pattern and I would like to address them, because they’re really starting to piss me off… So, I hope some men are reading and paying attention.

My partner and I have recently opened up our relationship and have begun to explore the world of other lovers. I’m really excited! I have been thinking about way back, before we met… How I had a strict rule of not having “boyfriends”, I only had lovers. I made this very distinct line for those males who wished to join my little harem, although looking back, was it a way to protect myself emotionally? Quite possible. I still felt in my power back then though, that was very clear and beautiful. When I was ready and asked for a monogamous relationship, it appeared.

whore (hôr, hōr)
n.
1. A prostitute.
2. A person considered sexually promiscuous.
3. A person considered as having compromised principles for personal gain.
intr.v. whored , whor•ing , whores

Fetish. So many thoughts come to mind when this word is spoken…. Creepy, dark, pervert, leather, feet, piss, panties, bondage… I never really encountered another lover who had a serious fetish… Well there was this one man I met at a Tantric Retreat, he had this incredible foot fetish, in fact it triggered something so intense with me, that I now have a bit of a foot fetish as well (my feet being worshipped, tickled, suckled… it’s almost like having another pussy!). It wasn’t creepy or weird at all. In fact, it was in the top 10 for most sensual sexual experiences (and I’ve had a few). In the last little while I have come into contact with a panty fetishist, I really wasn’t sure what to expect.

Ok, so this might be mildly inappropriate, but in the least it’s funny. I have been noticing while my man and I are going at it, my French Bulldog, Cash, loves to try and lounge right in the middle of all the action. While I’m on my back, he loves to jump up on the bed and snuggle right up alongside me. I have pushed him back and he seems content to just watch from the corner… It’s kind of strange…. Oddly inappropriate feeling. We have now taken to either putting him in his kennel or just shutting the door.

The weekend before last, my family moved from North Delta back into the Commercial Drive district. I must say, I feel so much more myself and at peace with my life. That peace seems to have fuelled a positive shift in my life as well, or perhaps the move back into the hood was the beginning of the shift… Who knows. Either way, it’s great!

In the last 2 years that I have worked here, I have noticed people seem to react in one way or another about my choice of employment.  I find it fairly amusing.  Its either “Ohhh that’s really cool” and they go on to ask me all sorts of questions and share knowledge, basically letting me know that they are totally open to it and that they approve/admire my line of work.  Then there’s the “Oh, that’s… interesting…” Followed by red face, uncomfortable silence and maybe an uncomfortable remark to let me know that they are trying to be ok with it, but really they wish they had never asked.  Another reaction, which I found particularly interesting was the say nothing, nod your head and quickly change the subject and pretend not to hear me.  This extreme uncomfortable ignorance has reared its head more than a few times…

We got this new toy in a little while ago, it’s called the Mystic Wand.  It comes in black and white or pink and white.  It’s basically a mini Hitachi wand that runs on batteries, has a bunch more settings and is totally waterproof.  As of recently, you can also get a silicone attachment for it!  I bought one and I am totally in love and I’m not just saying that because I work here.  I really mean it, this thing rocks!  The Mystic Wand has such a nice variety of settings and it’s stronger than most vibrators, which is also really fabulous…. Basically, an instant orgasm.

Niseema 
 

.....And you will know nothing.

I think I forgot. I forgot to make space for orgasm.... How did I forget to allow my body to experience this blissful state?
I remembered to not forget. I was then curious about such a word, so I Googled it. Orgasm. Incredibly, the Wikipedia entries were the first (as soon as the search button was pressed I was expecting to be wading through porn up to my armpits) and it spoke of human male and human female orgasms, human anal orgasms and most variations of all of those- there’s even mention of Dr. Alfred Kinsey. I noticed that there was more research and description around the male orgasm and not as much put into the female orgasm. How disappointing. There was barely mention of G-spot (vaginal as opposed to clitoral) orgasm, not to mention the complete lack of information (as far as I can see) regarding female ejaculation.

This past weekend me and my guy took a little vacation for his birthday. Since we have a couple of friends who recently bought a waterfront home over on one of the Gulf Islands, we thought that would be the place to go and relax.

Getting there was hellish, it was incredibly windy. So windy, in fact, that for the first time in the history of me riding ferries, I was seasick (I’m from up the coast, so, to get ANYWHERE requires use of at least one ferry).

Once we got there, it was lovely. I also realized upon our arrival that I was the only female amongst 3 Scorpio males. Interesting.

Does it ever feel as though your sex life gets slightly stagnant or routine? Mine does at times, but its almost always incredible regardless. My partner and I are quite open with each other, this is always beneficial to “brainstorming” ways of getting out of routine and trying something different- or even something we’ve done before (but not recently). Lately, we’ve been modeling for John and Vera’s sex positive videos. The first shoot, I’m not going to lie, I was so nervous! I mean, I’m going to be doing WHAT in front of my boss?!?! But once I relaxed (which didn’t take long) I was embracing my inner porn star and loving every minute of it.