Of all the things to contribute to a better sex life, it's communication. Boring? Nope. Sit facing your partner with your legs open and resting on one another. Put a bottle or two of your favorite slippery lube within reach and slowly rub yourself to climax or two... Watching one another get off is a great bonding experience and an easy way to communicate our desires. Be daring and show your particular variations in how you play. This is a great time for a partner to show how their anus likes to be played with, their nipples toyed with etc. Talk through the process with a "then I like to back off a bit and tease my left nipple like this" or huff and groan as you enjoy the show with your lover.