Burning Man: What I Learned About Sex (and Myself)

I'll admit it. I'm one of those people who went to Burning Man for the first time and it changed my life. For the uninitiated, Burning Man is a temporary community that exists for one week only in Black Rock Desert, Nevada.

Black Rock City - a utopian settlement in one of the world's most geographically hostile environments. The paradox is obvious.

Two of the fundamental principles of Burning Man are inclusion and radical self-expression, which permeate through all aspects of the community. Inthe words of one of Burning Man's founders:

"We make the world real through actions that open the heart."

So no surprise then that Burning Man is well-known for its erotic side. You've probaly heard some crazy stories about sex at Burning Man and they're probably true. Formal camps like the Orgydome, Miso Horny and Retrofrolic are just a sampling the safe spaces to explore sexuality in this dusty atmosphere.

These camps are wonderful, fun places in themselves. Better still, its the principle of openess of these camps that really impacted me. The value in radical self-expression, including sexuality, is one of my key takeaways from my Burn. While I'm very open-minded  - I work in a sex shop after all! - I do hold limiting ideas about my own sexual needs and boundaries based on deeply ingrained ideas of identity.

The atmosphere of warmth and inclusion gave me the opportunity to be bolder and braver than I typically allow myself to be in the default world.  The outcome? Amazingly erotic experiences that smashed through some serious boundaries. I'm determined to keep exploring these boundaries back home and am looking at the kink gear with a new appreciation.

You don't need to go Burning Man to explore your boundaries (although if you you have the chance to go, do!). We have lots of resources here at the shop. Maybe it's time to give Shibari rope tying a try?