Keep the Holidays sexy!
Yesterday I went to a shopping mall. I despise shopping malls. Sometimes I'll feel enthusiastic about getting some shopping done, take a deep breath and walk down the escalator to the main floor of the Pacific Center downtown. That's what I did yesterday. I was immediately greeted with giant gold banners and red and silver shiney glittery balls. Oh yes, it's Christmas season. The logistics of this holiday season will be different for me than previous years. So I thought it would be a great opportunity to make it different in a lot of ways, notably in my relationship and sex life.
Let's face it, Christmas isn't always the sexiest time of year. We've got relatives creeping in every corner, we spend too much money, eat too much food and (I'm especially guilty of this one) drink too much booze. Don't get me wrong, I like relatives, money, food, and booze! But it does put a damper on the ol' sex life. I read up on some tips to keep the sexy spirit alive this season and I thought it might be a good idea to share them before December hits. It's always a good idea to be prepared!
Tip #1 - Communication
There will be people everywhere, most of time. Often these are people that, even though you love them, will frustrate you from time to time. Keep a code between you and your partner that allows you to communicate your needs with each other. An example would be to say "snowflake" when you are angry and need your space. Or "Fireplace" as a code to meet you in the bedroom because you're needing a little loving.
Tip #2 - Don't stop having sex!
Granted there might be people in your house, or a neighbour could pop in at any time to borrow some milk or (preferably) bring you cookies... But the last thing you want is to stop having sex all together. Practice having quiet sex, or even practice having extra loud sex - that way everyone who walks up to your door will turn right around and leave you alone!
Tip #3 - Don't put yourself in embarassing situations
People will be popping in. Clear out the porn, make sure any home-made videos are well hidden away, don't leave condom wrappers in the bathroom garbage, hold off before putting your empty lube bottle in the recycling... Any small incident like that could turn you off for days, or even weeks! Plan ahead and make sure your place is great-aunt-friendly!
Tip #4 - Masturbate
It's the Holidays. You will be stressed. Masturbation can be a quick and quiet release. Not only that, but it's always good to keep your light alive by loving the person who you've had the longest and most intimate relationship with - yourself! It'll keep you going and can be that much needed pick-me-up!
Tip #5 - Take advantage of the romance
Although not necessarily sexy, Christmas is filled with those little romantic moments. You've got mistletoe, twinkling lights, cozy moments by the fire, tea breaks looking at your tree... These moments are everywhere! I strongly suggest taking the time to appreciate them, whether you're on your own or with a partner... Warm and fuzzy feelings are a must during the holidays!