To Peg or Not To Peg

It's so exciting to see that the traditional roles and rules around gender and sexuality are becoming more fluid and relaxed. I once had a professionally accredited and well-respected sex therapist tell me I was "weird" for my interest in taking on more dominant and traditionally masculine roles such as pegging.* As a heteroflexible female, this didn't sit well with me.

*Pegging, for the unititiated, is the act of a woman penetrating a man with a strap-on dildo.

One of my favourite things about working here is that it continously reinforces how normal all of our sexual quirks actually are at the end of the day. I recall my excitement the first few times a male-female couple bought a Bendover Beginner's Kit or butt plug for him. After being shamed previously for this interest, I felt so grateful to see that indeed I was "normal".


Enough of the backstory. Onto the good stuff.

When exploring pegging for the first time with a partner, I highly recommend starting with a butt plug to get him used to the feeling of having something in that area. As open as the mind may be to the idea of being pegged, the anus will likely be more reluctant. Starting with a slim butt plug like the Pleasure Plug 1 or The Arrow are both good options. Plently of lube to ease things along is mandatory with butt play. If you're using a silicone butt plug, then remember to use water-based lube.

For penetrative sex aka pegging, we have some great toy options. The Feeldoe is expressly designed for a woman to penetrate a partner. The egg shaped end is inserted into the vagina and using the Kegel muscles, it is held in place while penetrating. I found it much easier to use this toy with a harness for greater security during thrusting. And FYI, the Feeldoe is also great for women on women.

Speaking of harnesses, the other option of course is to use one with a dildo. I'm a huge fan of Aslan Leather's Jaguar Harness as it is fully adjustable for the perfect fit. Any dildo with a flared base will fit into this harness so that provides a great amount of flexibility as you build up stamina. Again, be sure to use a ton of lube for maximum pleasure.


If you're interested in pegging, be sure to check out any of our Live Demos coming up at our Vancouver sex shop  the Art of Loving