PEGGING

Something that I find interesting about sex and kinks is how it can show a very different aspect of a person’s character that you may or may not expect. One interest in particular I am always pleased if a bit surprised to find that my partners enjoy is pegging. It may just be the way our society stigmatizes males enjoying anal pleasure but I like to challenge that stereotype.

                Pegging is when a woman wearing some sort of strap on penetrates a man analy. Like I mentioned before it can be used to challenge gender roles but it can be enjoyed for a variety of reasons. One of these is the stimulation of the prostate or for use in a bdsm scene.

                The steps you take before pegging and the tools you use are very important for an enjoyable experience. First you want to discus the limits you and your partner have, what size toy you will use and what prep you will both expect. Next with any anal play you will need lube if your using a silicone toy you can’t use a silicone lube but a thick water-based lube or Hybrid Lube are great longer lasting options. Here are some: https://www.artofloving.ca/content/sliquid-sassy or https://www.artofloving.ca/content/fuckwater

                Next its time to pick your toy! Anything with a flared base is harness compatible and bonus points if its suction because that can add stability. There are also “harness free toys” that can be worn internally by the woman and still be used to penetrate the dude so that both partner’s can feel each thrust and movement. Here’s a good one for that: https://www.artofloving.ca/content/feeldoe. I always ask the partner being penetrated to pick the toy and then they feel comfortable with what ever goes down.

                Once you have a good toy harness and lube you almost ready to try pegging. First though you want to warm up with anal stimulation whether it be a finger or two or your favourite butt plug. Before you jump into any of this the receiver may want to douche so there is less risk of mess. Once you have warmed up cleaned up and used plenty of lube your good to go just make sure communication is consistent so everyone enjoys the experience as much as possible.