First and foremost, it’s important
to have that “Let’s be honest” conversation. I know it’s a cliché to say that Communication is Key… But the thing is, it is. Otherwise, it might sound like you’re attacking your partner if you’re trying to explain something that you’d like to change about your sexual relationship.
Also important is to keep in mind that talking about your sexual needs is not the same as writing out a honey-do list. Remember to talk about your needs, not what your partner needs to do. Start the conversation softly by mentioning that you need help or support with something.
There is of course the option of talking about your needs in a sexier setting. When it’s already clear that you’re both ready for some sensual bliss, whisper “I’d like you to try this…” Of course, if the certain something you’d like them to try is a big step from what you’ve already been doing, maybe it’s best to have a chat about it first.
These conversations can become intense and exhausting. If you sense either yourself or your partner getting stressed, throw in the white flag. Take a break and re-energize.
This could seem a stressful Endeavour or maybe just a walk in the park for you and your partner. Just remember that opening up about your sexual needs can fill a void sexually, intimately, and romantically. Today, a man in his 60s came into the store and got a few items that he said would drive his partner crazy, in the sense that it would annoy her and possibly get him in trouble. He had the biggest smile on his face and said that after being intimate with her as long as he has, they have nothing to hide and nothing to be ashamed of. I don’t know about you guys, but that seems like the type of amazing, open-hearted relationship that we all strive for.