Non-Penetrative Sex
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Not all sex is penetrative sex - what are the other ways you can be enjoying yourself with a partner?
Non-penetrative sex includes a variety of intimate activities that do not involve vaginal or anal penetration.
While it may seem obvious to some, to most people, the idea of sex is inextricably tied with the idea of penetration. This stems from the inherently patriarchal society we live in- the focal point for many when it comes to sex is the penis, and the penis is most often both thought of and depicted as a tool for penetration. This is ultimately harmful though, not just for people without penises who find their pleasure playing second fiddle, but also to those with penises, who become locked into penetrative sex as an expectation, often associated with "manliness" and a staple of the expected and enforced heterosexuality. Which is a real shame! A lot of people are shutting themselves off from new and exciting kinds of sex by not engaging with anything outside of penetration, and might be robbing themselves of their next favourite way to experience the bedroom. So, don't let yourself be one of these poor saps!
COMMON TYPES OF NON-PENETRATIVE SEX:
Touching/Rubbing/Heavy Petting
This involves caressing each other's bodies, often focusing on erogenous zones. It can coincide with sensory play, and involves the eroticism of having your hands on the different parts of your partner's body. I'm also going to put handjobs/fingering under this category. It doesn't get it's own category because most people are already familiar with this one.
Frottage
Sexual activity that involves rubbing the genitals on different parts of another person's body or genitals, typically with the partners facing each other. This practice can also be colloquially referred to as dry humping. Though the verb "frotting" is often colloquially used to refer to two penises exclusively, this is not necessarily the case.
Oral Sex
While some may consider this penetrative, it is often included in discussions of non-penetrative activities as it does not involve vaginal or anal penetration. One could consider the use of the mouth as engaging in penetration, and I would be remiss not to mention the heavy societal skew on performing oral sex on a penis vs on a vagina. However, it would have been irresponsible for this section to just be called "Eat Pussy", no matter how much I wanted to call it that.
Mutual Masturbation
Partners can stimulate themselves manually, which allows for shared pleasure without penetration. This is good if you're really gunning for that orgasm, or if it's the audio/visual stimulus from your partner that really gets you there rather than their touch per-se. Incorporating a mirror can be a fun way to flip that visual stimulus back, for both you and your partner.
Toys
Of course I was going to list this, I mean- look where we are. All joking aside- using toys is a great way to enjoy sensual/sexual stimulus without penetration. Sure, a good many toys are geared towards penetration, but an equal amount are geared towards external stimulus and/or can be used externally to achieve comparable levels of pleasure. Vibrating cock rings and clit suckers are two of the most popular types of external stimulus toys, and any bullet vibrator can be used on any kind of genitals without penetration.
Other things such as kissing/making out, sensual massaging and fantasy sharing could also be included here, but I wanted to focus more on the more explicitly sexual options, as I'm sure if you've looked for non-penetrative options to sex, you've come across a big list of things, half of which don't actually feel like sex, and have almost no chance of bringing you to orgasm. It's hard to know what "counts" as sex, especially if you're inexperienced.
But rest assured, my friends- it does not have to include penetration in order to be sex.
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