Intoxication and Altered States (CNC)
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- By L
We all know that drunk people don’t want tea- unless, of course, they do.
I’m sure we all are aware that mixing intoxication with sex is usually a big no no- it’s not cool to hook up with someone if they’re drunk and you’re sober, it’s not cool to engage in BDSM with someone drunk when you’re sober, and it’s definitely not cool to convince someone drunk to have sex with you if you’re sober. And obviously drunk can be interchanged with being high, or just in any way inebriated. We know this, but what about when that’s exactly what somebody wants? Enter the Intox kink, the fetish for being taken advantage of when inebriated. This is a consensual non consent kink, wherein the participators of a scene agree beforehand to engage in the re-creation of a non consensual situation, with safe words agreed upon beforehand.
WHAT IS CNC?
Consensual non-consent (CNC) is a form of consensual sexual activity where one partner simulates a lack of consent for a specific, pre-agreed-upon scene or roleplay. It is a fantasy, and all participants have explicitly and enthusiastically consented to the scenario beforehand, with clear boundaries and safe words to ensure no actual non-consent occurs. This is distinct from actual non-consent, which is illegal and harmful and can never be a part of a consensual sexual activity. CNC relies on clear, enthusiastic, and ongoing communication between all partners to establish the boundaries of the fantasy. Participants must agree on "safe words" to immediately and unequivocally stop the activity if it becomes too intense or crosses a boundary. In a CNC scenario, the "no" is an agreed-upon part of the roleplay, not a reflection of the participants' true feelings or a genuine lack of consent, as is the ignoring of the “no”. Any sexual activity that is not enthusiastically consented to is a criminal offense and is not part of a consensual relationship.
WHY INTOX?
People who find Intox erotic often tie it to the lack/loss of control, and find it sexy to be forcibly removed by substances from their presence and logical decision making ability, and they find that it enhances the eroticism in the sexual headspace. It’s appealing to not only fantasize about being subsumed by a knowing and more powerful force than yourself, but also to know that there’s no way that you could have possibly resisted it.
Obviously, this is heavy emphasis on the “consensual” part of “consensual non consent”. It is, at its core, a roleplay kink, as the parameters and dynamic are decided beforehand. If there’s never a discussion “out of character” so to speak, it is unsafe play. But know that you shouldn’t feel bad or like a bad person for wanting to engage in play like this- it’s just a kink, not a secret hint that you’re actually an abuser deep down or something. It should be fun and it should be hot for everyone involved, and if that requires a little bit of CNC roleplay, well then that’s what it is.