ORGASM?
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We’ve all heard it before. Woman are like a 100-piece puzzle and men are like a 10-piece set or something along those lines. There is an idea that the female orgasm is elusive and difficult to obtain. There is some data that supports these ideas.
The orgasm gap is a term used to refer to the rate at which heterosexual men and woman orgasm. The reported stats are 85-95% for men in partnered sexual activities and 40%-65% in woman. Now we know orgasm isn’t always the only goal but I think we can all agree a little equality would be appreciated. Especially since the same line is usually not told to men. There is a whole industry built around male sexual function. So how can we bridge that gap a little?
Research - As a heterosexual man crack some books open and add to your sexual tool belt. We love She Comes First a very instructional guide on how to pleasure a woman as well as The Multi Orgasmic Couple. As a woman masturbate! Get some toys or some lube and learn what makes you tick and cum. Find some pressures and rhythms that help you and make note for later
Toys- A lot of people think that toys mean you have failed some how. That is a lie! Sex toys are a great tool to help you or your partners enjoy your sex life to the fullest. We know no one can thrust like our Naked Addiction Thruster Dildo but that doesn’t mean its not super fun. Vibes are great if your having trouble reaching orgasm. May we suggest the classic Magic Wand or our new Plus model?
Communication- Now that you’ve done your research and bought some toys, Tell your partner what gets you off when your alone, Try out that new thing you read about, Try that new toy during penetration and through all of that check in a lot to see how things are working and not working.
If you or a partner are struggling with coming to orgasm regularly and would like to make some changes come by our Vancouver based sex shop the Art of Loving and we would be more than happy to help you.
Stats and info were found at https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/inclusive-insight/201810/are-all-orgasms-equal