The Hows and Whats of Cuckolding
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Like many words used as insults, “cuck” has a root in partaking in taboo sexual actions. But there’s no need to feel ashamed- it’s a well-documented kink that can be fun to participate in!
In basic terms, cuckolding is a fetish or kink in which a person gets turned on by their partner having sex with someone else.
It’s closely tied to BDSM with overlaps like domination, submission, and humiliation. Historically, the term cuckold refers to a man who was unknowingly cheated on by his wife. Don’t get too hung up on that, though. The modern-day cuckold — who’s not necessarily a cisgender or heterosexual male — is fully aware and heartily approves of their partner’s affairs.
Why do people like it?
Psychologists have suggested a number of reasons why someone may be turned on by their partner having sex with someone else.
A biological urge referred to as the “sperm competition theory” may play a role in the desire to be cucked. That’s if the cuck is someone with a penis, of course. In these scenarios, some research suggests that watching your partner with another man prompts a biological response to have longer and more vigorous sex. This urge often results in the cuck ejaculating harder, having more sperm in their ejaculate, and having a shorter refractory period between erections so they’re ready to go at it again a lot sooner. There could also be a jealousy factor- knowing someone else wants your partner can kick your desire into overdrive and make you want them more. Sexual jealousy can be intense, motivating, and pretty arousing. Some researchers think that jealousy is also a part of what fuels sperm competition and gets a male ready to fight for the fertilization win. Compersion, on the other hand, is the flipside of jealousy; it’s the happiness you feel seeing your partner happy. The word’s often used by people in polyamorous relationships to describe the feeling they get seeing their partner courting someone else. Humiliation also seems to play a leading role in cuckolding. It comes from the ridicule a person is likely to feel when their partner cheats on them. For some, humiliation ramps up the erotic intensity of the act by a huge margin. This can come from watching their partner with someone else, or some extra humiliation thrown in for good measure, like being laughed at or belittled by their partner. There is of course, the submission aspect as well. The cuck is essentially submitting to someone else taking over their role in the bedroom. The pleasure comes from giving up that power of sexually pleasing your partner over to someone else.
How do you practice cucking responsibly?
Like with any other sex act, you need good communication, consent, and respect. Once you’re both open to cuckolding, you need to set clear boundaries, first with each other and then with your third.
The same safety rules that apply for online dating or hookups apply here:
-Don’t disclose personal information, like your address or place of business.
-First meetings should always happen in a public place.
-Always have your own transportation to and from your meeting place.
-If going alone, make sure your partner knows where you’ll be and when to expect you back.
-Always have condoms or other barrier methods on hand if sexual intercourse is a possibility.
Remember that sexual contact always carries physical risks like sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and pregnancy. Practice safer sex by using condoms and other barrier methods during any type of sexual contact, including oral sex. Emotional risk is something else to consider. Even if you’re completely on board at the start, feelings can change at any time. One person may decide they want to stop, the cuck may begin to experience more jealousy than they bargained for, or one or both of the people hooking up could become too attached.
As with most kink and fetish, cuckolding requires complete honesty from everyone involved every step of the way. Communicate frequently to make sure you’re all still on the same page. If anyone is uncomfortable or unsure, or if anything feels off, stop. Beyond that, explore to your heart’s content! You could even incorporate a chastity cage if the cucked party has a penis, which can add an extra layer of humiliation/submission. But work your way up- don’t bite off more than you can chew. Good luck and have fun out there!
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