Gone are the days of one man and one woman being the only definition of what a relationship can look like. Which is great, of course, because as we know, there are a whole lot of ways to show and experience love, most of which transcend traditional (and outdated, tbh) views on gender and sexuality. And while the ever-evolving landscape of relationships is v exciting, it can also get a little confusing, especially since a lot of terms sound similar. Take polygamy vs. polyamory, for example. The romantic labels may look almost identical, but they mean two very different things.
As Dr. Pavini Moray, somatic sex educator, writes in this article....
"Sexual liberation is a process, not a goal. For the rest of my life, I will be freeing myself from all of the rules that I have swallowed, either those that are culturally constructed or those that are self-imposed. For the rest of my days, I will be calling myself home to erotic wholeness.
How do we start that sexual liberation process?
How do we free ourselves of the limiting beliefs, constructed and internalized rules and codes about eroticism, sensuality and sexuality? How do we take those first, scary steps into our own erotic authenticity? How do we call ourselves home to erotic wholeness?"
As pandemic precautions have lifted, we’re free to gather and hook up again—so why does sex still feel so anxiety-inducing?
Consent has many dimensions, and it can be really helpful to go into detail about what’s going on in any given interaction.
So you met this person and you think they are super great. You want to make the next move but your not sure what to do. Hopefully this zine will give some insight into how negotiate language and boundaries with another person especially if they are trans, queer and/or a survivor.
