WTF Is Mindful Masturbation?
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Butt stuff is far from niche these days, as more folks with vaginas become interested in things like anilingus or rimming (aka anal oral), anal fingering, and good ol’ p-in-b sex. While all of these back-door sex acts can bring pleasure in and of themselves, there’s also something to be said for combining or pairing them with vaginal penetration, á la double penetration.
If you’ve ever dealt with sexual anxiety, you’ll know it's the last thing you want in bed. Even if the lighting is just right and the music is sultry, you’re hit with this immediate sense of panic and hypersensitivity, and all things sexy just start to feel wrong.
Talking about sex is hard. Telling the person you love that you're not happy with your sex life is even harder.
It's unfortunate that so many people regard foreplay as if it were a flight layover—that is, the place you stop by really quickly on the way to your final destination. But, since many of us understand foreplay to be the opening act for penetrative sex, the mind-set isn't surprising. After all, the word foreplay literally means “before play."