How Colonialism affects Sexuality
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The effect of colonialism on politics is well-documented - but what about on sex and relationships? Here's what you need to know
The effect of colonialism on politics is well-documented - but what about on sex and relationships? Here's what you need to know
Anal sex can be a highly pleasurable experience for all bodies and genders, but it can sometimes cause discomfort for a number of reasons. The speed of insertion, amount of lube used, and lack of communication between you and your partner(s) could all be contributing factors as to why anal sex may feel painful. It may even bring increased tightness or uncomfortable sensations that you're not used to feeling — especially if it's your first time exploring the possibilities of anal sex.
Despite these feelings, "no sex should ever hurt or be painful," Betsy Greenleaf, a fellow of the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and pH-D Feminine Health Advisor, says. If you are experiencing pain during or after anal sex, that's reason enough to stop and consider what the problem is before continuing.
Ahead, let's dive into why does anal hurt sometimes, how to make anal not hurt, at what point of experiencing pain should you seek medical assistance, and the best lubes for anal sex.
Most people crave novelty at some point in their lives. When it comes to sex specifically, it's the reason people commonly want to try different sex positions, find new ways to orgasm, and introduce a myriad of sex toys into play. But how people spice up their sex lives is totally dependent on what they're looking to achieve.
Some people may be interested in trying BDSM because the power play sounds sexy; other people may want to engage in different role-play scenarios for the thrill. But regardless of how adventurous you want to be, allow us to put you on to perhaps the easiest way to spice up your sex life: temperature play.
The timeless oral sex anthem, "My Neck, My Back" by rapper Khia, includes the renowned lyric: "Lick it good, suck this pussy just like you should."
But those who are inexperienced or perhaps uneducated may ask: How should I "lick it good"?
Online dating can be a really useful tool with which to learn to check ourselves, be accountable for our prejudices and unlearn racist instincts that ultimately harm us and the people we want to share intimacy with.