What's the first thing you may tend do after any pleasurable sex and/or masturbation? It's not uncommon that most of us may jump to the next thing to do: whether that's hopping into the shower/bathroom; rushing to get dressed and out the door, falling asleep, etc.
Well, what if we took a few minutes after a pleasurable experience to really savor the moment? Research is showing that it's not enough to just have pleasurable experiences. Our brain actually needs the time to savor and let those experiences sink in for lasting benefit.
Awareness of what you’re actually experiencing—not an idealized notion of perfection—is the essence of all bodily enjoyment. If you remain attuned to yourself, you can begin to develop voluntary control over your anal muscles. This is not an authoritarian “Do what I tell you!” type of control, but rather a natural and easy flow between what you intend and how your anus responds. In order to acquire this control, you first need information about how your anal muscles work. Then you’ll learn how to use your finger as a sensitive probe to explore the interior landscape of your anus.
In our western culture, if we are living in a fat body, we are not given “permission” to be a sexual being. I mean, when is the last time you saw a fat woman as the romantic lead in a movie or TV show? You can probably count on one hand when you have seen a woman of size enjoying romance or sex of any kind in a mainstream show or movie, right? Gabourey Sibide’s scene in Empire comes to mind. Sadly, there are not many more out there – yet.
