KinkTok is Rife with Misinformation. Here's Why That's Dangerous.
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TikTok is having its '50 Shades' era, for better or worse.
TikTok is having its '50 Shades' era, for better or worse.
I realized my body was capable of more kinds of pleasure than I gave it credit for.
A lot of people feel like they have to perform during sex in one way or another, whether that’s by coming, making their partners come, looking sexy, or whatever.
But the kind of sex that brings people closer allows them to be themselves and, while still caring about their partners’ pleasure, do what they truly like.
The point is to appreciate every part of sex equally, not value any moment over the others.
Getting rid of external pressure to make sex a certain way allows me to get out of my head and connect with my partner.
In addition to taking off the pressure, adopting a less prescriptive idea of sex also makes the way we talk about sex more inclusive.
Queer sex experts answer your most commonly asked questions about BDSM.
Shame is powerful. And when shame starts to interfere with our self-esteem, our relationships, and/or our a/sexuality, it can start to take its toll. So many people told me about the depression, anxiety, isolation, and even despair that they felt around their kink – even though it wasn’t harming anyone, and it was 100% safe and consensual.
When I started seeking out community around kink, I realized every one of us has experienced some kind of shame or stigma.
In this article, Noah Redd, a genderqueer, kinky, non-monogamous, graysexual writer, shares some affirmations to help empower us all in reclaiming our kinks.
No need to hide what you’ve got. Take that book out of its discreet wrapping and let it all hang out – because enjoying the written word in all its steamy, salacious glory has benefits that last well beyond the bedroom.