Awareness of what you’re actually experiencing—not an idealized notion of perfection—is the essence of all bodily enjoyment. If you remain attuned to yourself, you can begin to develop voluntary control over your anal muscles. This is not an authoritarian “Do what I tell you!” type of control, but rather a natural and easy flow between what you intend and how your anus responds. In order to acquire this control, you first need information about how your anal muscles work. Then you’ll learn how to use your finger as a sensitive probe to explore the interior landscape of your anus.
In our western culture, if we are living in a fat body, we are not given “permission” to be a sexual being. I mean, when is the last time you saw a fat woman as the romantic lead in a movie or TV show? You can probably count on one hand when you have seen a woman of size enjoying romance or sex of any kind in a mainstream show or movie, right? Gabourey Sibide’s scene in Empire comes to mind. Sadly, there are not many more out there – yet.
Most of us at some point in our life may face different life changes, whether through aging or through different surgeries/health diagnosis that can all have an impact on our sexual health. Too often, this is a topic that is much ignored but vital to talk about.
