Taking on additional sexual partners while in a committed relationship has long been taboo. And while it’s not exactly mainstream now, there’s still rising interest in being open.
In an excerpt from her new book I Had a Miscarriage, psychologist Jessica Zucker, who specializes in maternal mental health, dives into the impossible challenge of feeling sexual after the trauma of a loss.
Gone are the days of one man and one woman being the only definition of what a relationship can look like. Which is great, of course, because as we know, there are a whole lot of ways to show and experience love, most of which transcend traditional (and outdated, tbh) views on gender and sexuality. And while the ever-evolving landscape of relationships is v exciting, it can also get a little confusing, especially since a lot of terms sound similar. Take polygamy vs. polyamory, for example. The romantic labels may look almost identical, but they mean two very different things.
As Dr. Pavini Moray, somatic sex educator, writes in this article....
"Sexual liberation is a process, not a goal. For the rest of my life, I will be freeing myself from all of the rules that I have swallowed, either those that are culturally constructed or those that are self-imposed. For the rest of my days, I will be calling myself home to erotic wholeness.
How do we start that sexual liberation process?
How do we free ourselves of the limiting beliefs, constructed and internalized rules and codes about eroticism, sensuality and sexuality? How do we take those first, scary steps into our own erotic authenticity? How do we call ourselves home to erotic wholeness?"
As pandemic precautions have lifted, we’re free to gather and hook up again—so why does sex still feel so anxiety-inducing?
