"It's empowering to be appreciated. It's draining to be fetishized. As a Black, disabled woman, I've had many experiences being the latter."
On their own, sex and drugs are cultural taboos. Combining them only adds to our reluctance to talk about them. But understanding how sex and drugs are connected isn’t something we should shy away from or perceive as deviant.
In short, shibari is Japanese rope bondage. It’s a contemporary BDSM practice of tying one up with rope for sexual and aesthetic purposes. The word shibari in Japanese means “to tie.”
Lip-on-lip kissing is not nearly as universal as we might think it is, so can the diverse number of ways that humans kiss reveal what it is about this intimate act that we find important?
Somehow, people often think that aftercare after vanilla sex, when no whips and chains were involved, is not needed. For example, you’re having sex in a missionary position, keeping eye contact at all times thinking that it’s more than enough.
But in reality, what you do after vanilla sex is as important as what you do during it.
