Expert Tips On Enjoying Sex When You’ve Got Chronic Pain
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Many people, myself included, deal with chronic pain on a regular basis. As a result, we have coping mechanisms to get through our every day. But what about when we want to get down with our partners? How do we talk about chronic pain and sex with someone we’re intimate with? How do we make sex less painful? I’ve got answers for you.
Here are 8 tips on how to navigate sex when you have chronic pain with Eva Sweeney.
Eva Sweeney, who identifies as a genderqueer disabled femme, is an author and sex educator focused on sex and disability, providing sex-ed for over 15 years.
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Eva also provides sex toy reviews for the most sex-accessible toys. Check out 3 of Eva's reviews for the Arc G-Spot Vibrator by Dame, Iroha Zen Vibrator by Tenga and Pivot by We-Vibe, which are all carried at The Art of Loving and which all receive high ratings for accessibility!!
Material: Silicone
Size: Length: 7.5” inches, Bulb: 1.4” inches wide
Power Source: USB rechargeable
Basic Description: This G-spot vibrator is both an internal and an external toy. It comes with 5-speed intensities and 5 patterns. This toy is also waterproof. It has a beaked bulb that is slightly squishy and made for target stimulation.
Pros: The length of the handle and the fact the whole toy vibrates makes it perfect for using externally. You can wedge it between your legs for some hands-free fun (of course you can also use it internally too!) The handle itself is designed to be very ergonomic and makes It easier to reach your sweet spots! The bulb design is interesting because it has a beak that makes it great for targeted stimulation, but it can still be used more broadly. The buttons are easy and intuitive to use as well, and this toy is also very lightweight.
Cons: The only major con I could think of is it is on the more expensive end as far as G-spot vibrators go, but if you know you like G-spot vibrators either internally and/or externally, this still a great quality option (it also comes with a great 3-year warranty).
Accessibility Features: The ergonomic handle, the length of the toy, and the fact that the whole toy vibrates are just a few of the things that make this toy very accessible.
Ponderings: If you want a high quality and ergonomic g-spot vibrator, this is an excellent option!
Ratings: ♿♿♿♿♿ (5 out of 5 wheelchairs)
Name: Iroha Zen Vibrator by Tenga
Material: Silicone, ABS plastic
Size: Width: 1.3" inches, Height: 5" inches, Diameter: 1.3" inches (2.5 oz)
Power Source: 2 AAA batteries (included)
Basic Description: This little vibrator is soft to the touch and has a special marshmallow-like texture, which also has an anti-dust coating. It also has ribs to give you more textured sensations. It comes with 3 vibration intensities and 1 patterned vibration mode. This toy is also waterproof so you can enjoy it in the bath.
Pros: It is rather small and lightweight so you can easily hold it. The whole toy vibrates so you don't have to be extra precise with this toy. The button is very easy and a rather big button located at the base of the toy. The soft texture could be good for people with skin sensitivities. This toy is also very affordable, especially for the quality.
Cons: It is not very powerful, which is to be expected with battery-powered toys. Because of its small size; wedging it anywhere is not really an option, so you have to be able to maneuver the toy in some way.
Accessibility Features: The size, weight, material, easy press button, and price all make this toy fairly accessible
Ponderings: If you are looking for an affordable external vibrator, this one might work for you
Ratings: ♿♿♿♿ (4 out of 5 wheelchairs)
Power Source: USB rechargeable
Basic Description: This is a vibrating cock ring, it has 10 vibration settings. It is waterproof and can be controlled from a Smart Phone app called We-Connect.
Pros: Even though I don't have a penis, I can really use this toy! I can put it over my 2 fingers and wear it like a ring. It stays in place very very well! Also, the fact that is can be controlled via an app is amazing. I, with my very little hand control, could still change the settings in the app very easily.
Cons: The button to turn the ring on need a certain amount of hand pressure in order to use it (however it can easily be turned on from the application as well)
Accessibility Features: This toy is very very accessible! From the shape of the toy, to the grip, and the app, it is an overall amazing toy!
Ponderings: if you don't have a penis, you might not think this toy could be for you, however, if you use a little creativity this toy can be a great fit! I highly recommend this toy for anyone.
Ratings: ♿♿♿♿♿ (5 out of 5 wheelchairs)