Joan Price is the author of several books including “The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50” and the award-winning self-help book “Naked at Our Age.” In this article, Joan invited newsletter subscribers to describe what they've learned about sex lately that has enhanced their sex life. The responses illustrate how far we’ve come in acknowledging that seniors are full human beings with sexual needs and desires, and how we are empowering ourselves to fulfill them.
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Having better sex in the autumn of one’s life is not surprising, says Dr Pega Ren, sex therapist and author of Xtra’s Ask the Expert column.
“We’re much better at sex when we’ve done it a lot,” she says.
“As we go through life, our behaviours change, and as our behaviours change our priorities change and our experience and knowledge base expands,” Ren explains.
“So here we are with this vast knowledge base and experience, and we’re ready to roll — and sometimes we have to make accommodations for a body that can’t perform as it used to,” she acknowledges.
A senior herself, Ren agrees Western society is hard on the aging when it comes to sex. “We become invisible sexually as we age,” she says. “You don’t see grannies selling lingerie.”
“It’s always about the young with the buff body, and the whole world isn’t like that,” says 80-year-old Clyde Rowett. “The whole gay community isn’t made up of buff bodies.”
