Screen Time and Masturbating
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About masturbating without porn…
Not to sound like your mom but we are on our screens way too much. Whether you’re doomscrolling Instagram or needing to fill all you time with some form of content, I know it’s making your life worse! I am confident in saying this because I’ve fallen down these rabbit holes before. It’s so easy to constantly feed your brain stimulation. Honesty, it makes life feel monotonous and unfulfilling. I’ve also notice that all this consumption has made it difficult to create joy on my own volition. Wonder and imagination has been swapped with a secure stagnation. Kinda like a prison.
This applies to your sex-life too. There is discourse on the ethics and affects of porn we will not go into. IMO, as with all things, moderation is key. If watching porn gets you going, don’t let me shame you for it. I think the problem comes from the instantaneous reward. It feels less like porn is an avenue for exploration and more of a convenience.
What I mean is, “I’m going to watch porn in order to masturbate.” Instead of, “I’m going to masturbate, I would like something to set the mood.” The way some folks treat porn is an instantaneous PLEASURE NOW button. Again, if you need to bust real quick and get on with your day, sure, call it efficiency.
Please consider this. When you eat, is it more enjoyable to scarf it down in three minutes in the bathroom (personal experience) or sit down on your nicely set table + flowers and eat like you don’t have anywhere to go after? My friend doesn’t enjoy eating so this wouldn’t apply to them.
Another one then. Would you rather watch short 15 second summaries of a show you’re interested in or actually sit down and watch the show? Would you rather just understand the plot or actually follow the twists and turns, while trying to piece things together yourself?
Yes, I could crunch every House M.D episode with short vertical videos.
No, I will not do that because I do actually enjoy watching the show.
When you take time away from porn, it gives you an opportunity to create thoughts and fantasies that are yours. As great as porn is, there is no scenario that is hotter and more geared towards yourself than your own fantasies. When we remove instant outside stimulation, we can begin to feel our own thoughts and bodies more clearly. This makes it easier to know what you like! And you can tell your partner how to pleasure you just the way you like it.
Let us think and feel for ourselves. Life is more enjoyable that way.
Peace and Love.